It’s not homophobic if you simply don’t want to see two men kissing on national television that is being watched by children.
That is a load of horse plop. It is homophobic, simple and true.
As Michael Sam kissed his boyfriend on national television after becoming the first openly gay player drafted to the NFL, ignorance in the world of sports, online social media and America was thrust into light. It’s not shocking to me that there are people out there that aren’t comfortable with the homosexual community and I wouldn’t be taking to my blog if I wasn’t actually shocked by something. We are a minority that is deeply misunderstood.
Pushing us underground isn’t going to work, so I have to ask that those who aren’t comfortable with homosexuality find a new approach and vision on how to move forward. My hope is that we can all move forward side by side.
Sadly we aren’t there yet. As soon as Michael Sam and his partner kissed tons of homophobic, uneducated people took to social media with comments like:
I’m sorry but that Michael Sam is no bueno for doing that on national tv. I’m fine with it being a new day in age but for him to do that on… Man U got little kids looking at the draft. I can’t believe ESPN even allowed that to happen.”
This was tweeted by former Super Bowl champion Derrick Ward.
Derrick, the reason your comment is wrong and not the actions of Michael Sam and ESPN is because they did nothing wrong while you spouted ignorance. Kissing between two members of the same-sex, whether a real same-sex couple or a fictional one on a television show, has been around for years. The better question is why should ESPN not air this kiss? Why stop airing kisses between two loving people now after such a long time of airing kisses just like this one?
Educate yourself Derrick. The first kiss between a homosexual couple aired on network TB during LA Law on February 7, 1991. The second was aired on CBS’ Picket Fences between two teenage girls. In 1994 on a Roseanne Episode titled Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Roseanne kissed Mariel Hemingway. In 1997 ABC aired an episode of Relativity with a lesbian kiss. Let’s not forget the beautiful moment when two men kissed on Dawson’s Creek in 2000. American daytime TV aired a kiss between two gay men on As the World Turns on August 17, 2007. Lastly, we should always remember the first network television kiss between two men in the 2000 episode of Will & Grace. (Information received from Fact Monster)
My question is why stop now? Simply because this is a sports channel and you personally find it unacceptable? Children watch ABC, NBC, CBS, etc. Should they all pull all past and future television shows that air same-sex couples kissing? Of course not!
So why is the kiss between Michael Sam and his boyfriend such an issue? It’s an issue because you are making it one. Why is it homophobic? Well that is a question Robby Schultz asked:
It’s annoying that people can’t say anything about the Michael Sam kiss without people pointing at them saying homophobe.
It may be annoying that your ignorant tweets and those of people like Derrick Ward are deemed homophobic, but they are labeled as such for good reason. They are homophobic.
You assume because the sport at hand is a traditionally masculine sport that it’s okay to be hateful toward another person who isn’t like you and the majority of the world. Basically all of these anti-same-sex kissing on television complainers would prefer to see the entire LGBT community suppressed. Silent and hidden away in our own little neighborhoods like West Hollywood, CA, New York City and other places that keep our lives hidden from view. Why don’t you just ship us off to some camp or island where we can be forgotten about and not seen by the masses? Oh wait, we learned that’s not right a long time ago.
Maybe it’s time we stop separating our sexual orientations so that our youth can learn that there is nothing wrong with gay people. Why can’t your kids see two gay men kissing? It’s not contagious. We are humans just like any of you. We love, we feel and we even kiss our partners like you do. Nothing is perverted about a loving kiss between two partners no matter what the sexual identity is of both partners. You would never expect a kiss between you and your girl friend to be hidden from the public would you Derrick? Why should Michael’s?
It’s time to wake-up and realize we are all one. If you want to learn more about how to help end homophobia in men’s professional sports check out The Last Closet! This is a great group I have written about before here. Well worth a peek at their website.