This morning I woke up thinking it was going to be a good day. Of course I was a bit tired, but within the first 20 minutes of being awake I had already learned that I’ve lost 3 more pounds, was going to have a cup of coffee and break my no coffee rule again, and a picture I had posted the night before on social media was getting a lot of fun attention.
Then I headed to work and immediately things started to turn sour. First I backed my car into a trashcan and knocked it over. That’s always fun! Then I pulled on to Santa Monica Boulevard to find that traffic was completely stopped. After ten minutes I realized I had to turn around and go back home because I forgot to take my medicine. Once home and in the bathroom reaching for my medicine I accidentally dropped my iPhone. When I picked it up I found that the screen was shattered. After that I got in my car a bit rattled to learn that there was a horrible accident on Santa Monica Boulevard and I’d have to find a new route to work.
Then I received an email from a friend with the subject line “ridiculously amazing”. Inside the email was a copy of the picture I had posted the night before and a quick note about how my friend finds me to be ridiculous, silly and that she is glad I can always make her laugh.
Personally I think that there is not a person on earth who could successfully argue that I do not have a good sense of humor and that I don’t know how to laugh at myself. This was proven by this picture last night. Yesterday was a very special day. It was the birthday of one of my dearest friends, Robbie, and also the day before my boyfriends sister visits. Naturally this required both a celebration and a house cleaning, so in true Bobby fashion I grabbed a cosmo and a mop. Realizing how silly I looked I had Blair, my boyfriend, snap a picture so I could share it with Robbie and Blair’s sister on Facebook and Instagram.
I knew the picture would get some attention since these aren’t private networks, but I didn’t expect how much attention it would receive. It’s been liked like crazy on Instagram, definitely enjoyed by some of my Facebook friends, tweeted about, emailed about both among my personal and professional networks and I even received a few text messages about it.
As I look back I realize just how funny the picture is which is perfect timing because after the morning I’ve had I needed a good laugh.
Now as I settle into my day I feel the need to laugh more than earlier and decided that it’s best to laugh at yourself. Life pushes you into many difficult situations, frustrating circumstances and sad moments, but it’s how we respond to them that makes us who we are. Over the past year I have gotten a divorce, moved 4 times, left a job, started a job, said goodbye to all my best friends and family and started a new life. There have been many wonderful moments, but also many hard moments. So let’s take a moment to laugh at the way I have handled them.
1. The one that prompted this, the birthday celebration I threw for my friend since we were a country apart and he wasn’t getting to celebrate his birthday all while cleaning.
2. Last summer I decided to take a beach trip to Rehoboth to escape New York City. A fun trip with my friend Dustin to the beach ended up getting a bit rainy. First we found ourselves crowded in a parking deck with a large group of beach goers so I decided to entertain those waiting for the rain to stop with a lovely dance.
By the time we got to the hotel, cleaned up and headed out to the bars it was still raining, so I decided to go out in on the patio at the bar and do a little back-bend in the rain for the guys.
3. Then the month of December came. Christmas is always emotional when you are going through major transitions. I knew this past Christmas was going to be my last in New York, my last with my friends there and the first home with my family in over 7 years. The month of December found me getting a little too obsessed with Santacon to the point that I couldn’t let go of my elf costume and wore it repeatedly every chance I got.
4. Then there was the going away party for Blair and I prior to our move from NYC to LA. My friend and I decided to reenact the legendary scene from Titanic at the front of the boat, but failed…
5. Then I randomly convinced myself that it wasn’t clear that I am gay on social media so I made my Twitter and Facebook profile pictures pop with rainbow pizzazz. 6. Then I went on a hike and realized I never had to question how gay I come off to people.
7. We can’t forget how I celebrated my favorite holiday, Halloween. I marched through New York City dressed as a Alexander the Great’s concubine (my boyfriend dressed up as Alexander the Great for Halloween). This is real life for me!
8. Then there was that time I thought I should climb a tree at 2 am. I don’t know how this is me getting past tough situations, but it’s pretty much worth inclusion for a laugh.
9. There was also that time my boyfriend convinced me it would be fun to clean up trash on the beach. To get over that trashy experience I went to swim in the pool and of course I got a little too excited about the pool floats.
10. And lastly for my most ridiculous moment… The time I showed a little too much emotion at my going away party… and I kissed a girl…
and then I kissed another girl…
Then everyone got in on the fun…
And eventually even my boyfriend realized I can be a bit out of control so he made his claim.
And I accepted his ring pop faux-proposal
When life throws you tough situations and unexpected obstacles approach them with humor and laugh at yourself when you do something stupid.