Forgive Paris Hilton!

Not everyone will agree with me on this and frankly I don’t blame people, but I think we need to give Paris Hilton a break.  A majority of news sites and bloggers are aggressively posting the awful comments Paris Hilton made about gays while sitting in the back of a cab in reference to the Grindr application that she was being informed of.  For those of you that don’t know (and probably live under a rock) she said:

Ewwww … gay guys are the horniest people in the world. Most of them probably have AIDS … I would be so scared if I was a gay guy … you’ll like die of AIDS.

These comments are wildly inappropriate and I will never argue otherwise.  They were made carelessly and heartlessly, but I think it’s important to look past the poor choice in words and bad judgement and listen to the rest of the conversation that was going on.

According to sites like TMZ these comments came after Paris’ friend told her a story about a positive gay man who was having anonymous unprotected sex with people he meets on websites and applications like Grindr.

Paris Hilton’s representative explained to CNN that her “comments were made about men who use a cell phone app for sexual hookups and were expressions of concern about the dangers of unprotected sex, not homophobic slurs.” I believe that was the intent behind her comments and I don’t disagree with her to be honest.  I think more people (gay and straight) need to remember the risks of unprotected sex.

Paris Hilton is an advocate for the LGBT community.  I don’t think there is a reason to hate her over her poor choice of words.   Yes, an apology was necessary and yes this should be used as a lesson for Paris to be very careful with what she says in public because you never know who could be recording your conversation.

What I find disgusting is the taxi driver who not only invaded her privacy by making the recording, but who only released the condemning parts of the audio clip and not the parts that explain why she was saying it.  If you hear what the rest of the conversation was you can easily see that she wasn’t meaning to be homophobic or anti-gay in any way.

I’m also saddened and disgusted with people who hate Paris for being Paris Hilton and are using this as an opportunity to  jump her bones.  Not caring much about the topic at hand, but instead just hating to hate.

Homophobic, Paris?  Absolutely not!  A bit loose-lipped and not the best and phrasing what she is thinking, well yes, absolutely.

I just hope the LGBT community doesn’t attack her unnecessarily and realizes that the energy to combat inequality and hate should be focused on true rivals in our fight for justice, equality and respect.   We all say things that sound inappropriate, both in and out of context, that aren’t necessarily meant the way they come off.  We are all human and that means a wealthy celebrity heiress is also human.

Thank you Paris for always being a supporter of the LGBT community and thanks for admitting your mistake in this situation.  It’s not always easy to admit fault publicly.  I respect you for handling the situation gracefully and swiftly.

Paris’ apology as posted on GLAAD:

As anyone close to me knows, I always have been and always will be a huge supporter of the gay community. I am so sorry and so upset that I caused pain to my gay friends, fans and their families with the comments heard this morning. I was having this private conversation with a friend of mine who is gay and our conversation was in no way towards the entire gay community. It is the last thing that I would ever want to do and I cannot put into words how much I wish I could take back every word.

HIV/AIDS can hurt anyone, gay and straight, men and women. It’s something I take very seriously and should not have been thrown around in conversation.

Gay people are the strongest and most inspiring people I know. It is so wrong when people bully or put down others for being gay. No one should have to go through that. Again, I am so sorry from the bottom of my heart and I feel absolutely horrible. I hope that everyone can accept my apology and know that it is not who I am or how I feel in any way.

Thank you for taking a minute to read this, I love you.