When trying to pretend and show that you are alright and everything in life is going well for you when in reality it is not, you have to remember your natural behavior patterns when you are truly happy and content with life. If you are the type of person who is typically reserved, semi-anti-social, not very giddy and tend to sit quietly when you are happy then that is how you should act when you are pretending to be happy.
When pretending you are happy you cannot over do it. Acting overly excited and with an exuberant zest for life will only tell the person you are trying to convince you are doing well that you are in fact feeling just the opposite. Additionally, you will probably come off looking crazy (and let’s be honest, no one wants to look crazy).
Here is what I suggest you do:
- Take a step back and ask yourself, “does the person I want to convince that I am doing amazingly well know me really well?
- If the answer is yes, then you should ask yourself, “how do I normally act in times of great happiness?”
- Once you have that answered, you should behave just like that!
If you never tweet or post on social media about how great life is, my suggestion is to not start at this moment. Daily tweets saying, “Life is just so great right now. AMAZING! Just getting better, never been happier in my entire life,” will just be read, “Life sucks but I think I can pull off looking happy.”
Your behavior when you act falsely happy will backfire on you and you will just look sad. No, not sad as in boo hoo… You will look sad as in pathetic. Additionally, you will look like you are slightly losing it.
Now do you want my real advice? My real advice is to toss out my three points above and follow a lesson my mother has taught me. She use to say this to me growing up when I would have issues with siblings and admittedly I still need to hear this advice regularly because it is easy to forget in life.
In short, “Don’t focus on what other people are doing or thinking and focus on yourself. No one else matters.” You are wasting your time and energy worrying and stressing about what someone else thinks. Worry and stress does no one any good and frankly will just cause you wrinkles, grey hair and a lack of sleep. Focus on yourself. Focus on becoming happy or being happy. If you have to pretend to be happy for someone then you should walk away from them because they clearly aren’t someone positive in your life. I hope this is sinking in for one (or two people). And I hope everyone can truly find how to be happy.
You should really just walk away from whoever this is causing you to behave crazy. It’s the best thing for you and for that person to be frank.