Song of the Day – Say My Name by Destiny’s Child
After a very great day yesterday laying out at the beach with friends and then an even better night out dancing with the same friends I arrived home in the early hours of the morning expecting to fall straight into bed. Right before I was able to though, a little controversy popped up.
It’s not something I hadn’t already been discussing with friends, but it was something that I think is important to think about and is 100 percent my choice to make. While I won’t explain how or why this came up last night, I have to decide on what name I want to go by. I was born Bobby William Whetsell III, but when I got married I took my husband’s name. My name was then switched to Bobby William Argabrite (although I never used the William).
Now that I am no longer married (well technically in the process of no longer being married) I have to decide what to do about my name. For a while I thought I would just keep Argabrite. It’s become my identity. Then I started thinking that the name carries a lot of “shade” (to snatch a word from the song embedded below).
I think it’s time to start over from scratch. I’ve said it before and I will say it again, time for a new me and a new life. Let’s distance me from Argabrite. The main question under consideration is whether I should I go back to Bobby Whetsell or switch to my mother’s maiden name, Bobby Porter? I considered my step-dads last name, which would make my name Bobby Hall, but it sounds too much like a butch hockey player.
I realize at the end of the day a name is just a name, but I am in the process of trying to find myself and redefine myself so I think my name plays a part in that. For the time being I think I will just go by Bobby TBD since my name is to be determined. It has a fun ring to it I think.
This controversy last night (which I am not really going to go into in this posting) and my previous thoughts on the topic have inspired the selection of Say My Name by Destiny’s Child to be today’s song of the day. Not only is it a song with “name” in the title, which is just a fitting title for the issue on my mind at this moment, but the lyrics are in sync with some of the dramatics that I have gone through in the past few months. It’s always a good day when you reach back to music from your past to dance around to in your living room.