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I think I’m finding my voice again

BobbyTBD running in the 2014 Los Angeles Marathon.
BobbyTBD running in the 2014 Los Angeles Marathon.

I’m a little nervous about writing this, but I can’t help but feel positive changes are being made in my life.  No longer am I making choices and doing things based on emotions.  Instead of letting pain and sorry drive me I am letting passion take control.

While my life has been on an upward trajectory ever since I met my fiance, it is no secret to anyone that I have had a lot of personal emotional battles over the past couple of years. To respond to these emotions and in an effort to combat them I have tried to make lifestyle choices to help my mood and mental state.

Me and a team member prepping for my 12 mile night run during the April 2014 SoCal Ragnar Relay.
Me and a team member prepping for my 12 mile night run during the April 2014 SoCal Ragnar Relay.

I have forced myself to run a half marathon, full marathon and Ragnar Relay race.  The training was excruciating because I was running because I had to in order to feel slightly better as oppose to running because I wanted to.  The same thing goes for my writing.  I felt stuck for the longest time because I felt like a broken record with nothing to write about besides wanting to feel better and shake off my past.

Somewhat consciously and somewhat unconsciously I have started to shift from emotions directing my activities to my passion which couldn’t feel better.  I’m starting to feel like I am running because I genuinely have a passion for hitting the pavement like I use to.  I also feel like I am starting to find my voice again when it comes to writing.

My mother, father, aunt and me at the end of the 2014 Los Angeles Marathon and 1/2 Marathon. All are proud finishers
My mother, father, aunt and me at the end of the 2014 Los Angeles Marathon and 1/2 Marathon. All are proud finishers

When I was younger and still in my college political science major mindset I use to write passionately about all sorts of local, state, national and international issues.  Those issues seemed less important when I was focused on my emotions, but I am back to realizing that there is an entire world out there beyond my personal world of emotions.

Maybe I am wrong, but I feel optimistic. It feels like I am finally starting to determine who I am, what makes me happy and how I want my life to be. I guess you can consider this a Bobby TBD progress report.

Here I am running the 2013 Santa Monica 1/2 Marathon and 15k Turkey Trot.
Here I am running my first leg of the 2014 SoCal Ragnar Relay.

Join my team for The Color Run Los Angeles!

As you may have noticed, I have slowly increased the amount of races I take part in.  It really became clear to me quickly when I moved to Los Angeles that I had to make sure I was living a healthy lifestyle if I was going to be a resident here.  Everyone is always eating healthy, doing Yoga, going to boot camps, drinking strange health powdered drinks and participating in every other “health” fad out there.  I can’t really partake in those type of activities though.

I have to be motivated to exercise.  Fun runs are a way to do that. That’s why I’ve created a team called Gays of Our Lives for the 1:00 PM time slot to run as A Team Runner in THE COLOR RUN LOS ANGELES.

According to the event website The Color Run is:

Less about your 10-minute-mile and more about having the time of your life, The Color Run is a five-kilometer, un-timed race in which thousands of participants, or “Color Runners”, are doused from head to toe in different colors at each kilometer. With only two rules, the idea is easy to follow:

1.  Wear white at the starting line
2.  Finish plastered in color!

The fun continues after Color Runners complete the race with an unforgettable Finish Festival. This larger than life party is equipped with music, dancing and massive color throws, which create millions of vivid color combinations. Trust us, this is the best post-5k party on the planet!

Registration is open now!

If you haven’t registered yet, you can register and join the team here:

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You can also find more information at the event website:

Please let me know if you would like to join our team, register and join, all are welcome! help motivate me to keep running, run yourself and have fun.

Support my race and your donation will be doubled today!

Bobbytbd race jpgThe holiday’s are definitely upon us.  I’ve already began living in a state of holiday frenzy with holiday party, after holiday part, after holiday brunches, after holiday work events, and gearing up for travel. That’s really left me little time to write unfortunately.

With that said I can’t help but take a moment to make a few announcements about the 2014 LA Marathon, which I am running with my mom and now my Aunt and boyfriend as well, to raise money for a wonderful cause focused on providing a year-round medical specialty camp for children with chronic illness.

With added members to our team our team goal as risen from $2,000 to $3,000!  We have raised $830 so far, but still have a ways to go! The good news is that a donor of the organization has offered an exciting matching grant opportunity. Every donation made will be doubled. That means:

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If you don’t know much about the camp please take a moment to watch the brief and amazing American Milestones video below.  Every dollar will go directly to helping a child experience the magic of camp and to reclaim their childhood.

An update on my running progress will follow!

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It’s getting dark way too early! #RunnerProblems

DonateI’m sitting at my desk with the large glass windows behind me as they flood in ligh…. oh wait, it’s 4:53 pm.  The windows aren’t flooding in light! All the windows are doing is showing me how the day is coming to an end.  The sun is setting early thanks to the fact that it’s almost winter.  All the large glass windows are doing is reminding me that I need to figure out how the heck I am supposed to train for the LA Marathon.

Step one of my training is to get in shape for the Turkey Boogie 1/2 Marathon which will be held in Santa Monica, CA on November 30th.  My boyfriend Blair and I are committed to running this race. With just a few weeks left to train I have to say, I’m in for a rude awakening!

Because the sun is setting before I even leave my office I realized the other day that I have to figure out a new routine.  Gone are the days of leaving my office at the end of the day, throwing on some running clothes in my car and taking a nice long run in the sun along the beach. Finding a new routine isn’t easy though.  The only three options that I have come up with so far include:

  1. Run in the dark – My mother would not be happy with this option!
  2. Wake up early and run in the mornings before work – We will get back to this one.
  3. Join a gym – Which was my mode of operation when I lived in New York City.

Running in the dark is just not an option. It’s not safe, my mother (yes I am 27-years-old, but I will still listen to her) is against this.  Obviously I didn’t even need to explain that since all I have written about is how the sun setting early is causing me issues when it comes to running.  Let’s move on, shall we?

Waking up early has never been my strength.  Some people are morning people, some people are night people and some people are a mixture of the two.  I am notoriously a night owl. When the alarm goes off in the morning you can count on me to hit the snooze button a few times. What to do?

Should I join a gym? Well that has it’s downsides too.  The closest gym to my office is a YMCA or Equinox.  The YMCA is a family YMCA and is always swamped with children.  The Equinox is expensive and out of my budget.  That leaves me with LA Fitness which is over a mile away from both my job and my home.

With all those factors laid out I realized quickly that I had only one viable option to attempt and that is to wake up before work and run in the mornings.  Knowing that this would not be a challenge that I would excel at right away I decided it was time to make more than one change.  Not only am I increasing my running, obviously a must for training for a marathon or 1/2 marathon.  Not only am I waking up early, which we established is the best option out of those I presented.  I will also be adjusting one other thing in my life.  Alcohol.

November will not see a detox to the extent of which I did in May of 2012. Nope, I won’t be cutting alcohol out of my diet completely, but I have decided to restrict my intact.  I will no longer have a single drink unless it is at a social or work function on the weekends.  That way my body and mind will be easier to rouse in the mornings.

This morning was one of those mornings. It was easier to wake than it has been in the past, by my first morning run was none-the-less a struggle. As humiliated as I am to post this I still have to admit that I only hit 2.3 miles this morning.

It’s a start! One way to motivate me is by making a donation toward my efforts to raise funds for this wonderful organization that provides a year-round medical specialty camp for children with chronic and life-threatening illnesses which you can learn more about by clicking on the graphic link above that says DONATE!

Mother & Son Running For a Cause!

Mom and I running the Bronx 1/2 Marathon to raise money for HealthRight International.
Mom and I running the Bronx 1/2 Marathon to raise money for HealthRight International.

In 2007 I decided to run the Richmond, Virginia marathon with my mother and then a few years later we hit the road to run the Bronx, New York 1/2 marathon.

I first got introduced to the sport of running by my mother. Running is a huge part of her life.  If you know her, you know her as a runner.  Someone who can’t take in air unless she knows she will be able to exercise soon. With countless marathons, 50 mile races and 100 mile ultra marathons under her belt she is definitely a runner to look up to and a runner who has influenced my health and life for the better.

A lot of people try to find ways to bond with their parents. This isn’t something I’ve ever had to struggle with in my life.  Luckily my mom and I have a great relationship and sync with each other on many levels.

One of the things we have grown to enjoy most is running together.  Now, 7 years after the first marathon we’ve ever run together we have decided to commit ourselves to running another race together (additional family members including my boyfriend may be joining our team later on).

This time around we decided running together wasn’t enough, although it’s plenty of fun. No, this time we have decided to dedicate our efforts of training for and running a marathon, the 2014 LA Marathon, to raise money for cause.

We are running to raise funds and awareness for The Painted Turtle!  Our team goal is $2,000 as of right now ($1,000 each). For those of you who don’t know, The Painted Turtle, a year round medical specialty camp where children with serious medical conditions can go to just be kids.

As a background, The Painted Turtle’s mission is to provide a year-round, life-changing environment and authentic camp experience for children with chronic and life-threatening illnesses. The Painted Turtle supports children’s medical needs, inspires them to reach beyond their illnesses, and provides care, education and respite for their families. All campers and families attend free of charge.

As individual supporters we hope that through our networks we can help this wonderful

Mom and I after we completed the Richmond, Virginia Marathon in 2007.
Mom and I after we completed the Richmond, Virginia Marathon in 2007.

cause.  To follow my progress as I begin my training, sign-up to receive email updates for when new post are made by filling out the box on the upper right hand side of this screen or check back regularly. All post will be under the “running” category or can be found on my homepage.

To learn more about The Painted Turtle or to donate toward our goals and support The

Painted Turtle please visit my page here!

A donation of any amount will make a difference in the life of a child. 

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After lunch guilt

After lunch guilt

For the past two months I have been constantly on the go.  Every second has been focused on work, friends, family and travels.  It has felt almost impossible to exercise due to the packed schedule I’ve been living with mixed with a need to rest every once-in-a-while.  Now come September 9th I find myself a bit weighed down, but this time not by my schedule.  Physically weighed down is how I feel.  I feel as if I am putting on weight and that just won’t do for me.

Admittedly I am a bit hard on myself, but I can’t help but feel every ounce of food I have consumed the past few weeks sitting on my stomach, face, legs, arms and everywhere else on my body.  With that feeling consuming me I turned to my running monitor system, Nike Plus (I highly recommend checking the Nike Plus products out if you are a runner).  According to my Nike Plus account I last ran on August 24th.  In fact, according to my Nike Plus account, I ran on the 18th, 20th, 23rd and 24th of August and covered a combined total of 17 miles.  That’s just two weeks ago.  Yet, I feel like I am slothenly now.  This feeling has been amplified due to the fact that I ate a full lunch today, which is sitting heavily in the base of my stomach right this very moment, coupled with the feeling of exhaustion that consumes me due to a night of insomnia leaving me with a desire to go home straight from work and sleep.  Woah, I may not be running, but apparently I am writing in run-on sentences today…

Tonight is my first night in months without a single plan.  I am ignoring chores, not packing up my old apartment to prepare for my move, not meeting friends or anything else.  Once the clock strikes 5:00 pm I will be packing up my purse (okay, my man purse.  Call it what you want.) and heading straight to the apartment.  For the past week I have had every intention of climbing back on the horse and running today, but now the exhaustion is consuming me (reference my night of insomnia blog from 1:00 am last night).

Now step back a moment.  The need to run isn’t just that I have this strange obsession with my weight and feeling fat.  If you follow bobbytbd.com you will know that I am training for the Richmond Marathon which takes place on November 11th.  That is rapidly approaching and I only have a 17 mile a week base from two weeks ago under my belt.  Honestly, I am pretty sure I am screwed when it comes to this race.  For starters I am mentally not into the training.  Today, two months away from the race, I don’t care if I get out and train.  The only reason I am trying to motivate myself into running after work is so that I can burn off the food I have been eating lately.  The race is an after thought.

The original intent behind the race was to run with my friend Robbie from college.  I thought it would be a fun way to get to see each other and get some exercise along the way.  Additionally, I saw the marathon as a vehicle for distraction.  The first time I ran a marathon it took so much of my mind, body and spirit.  I trained rigorously for 16 weeks straight.  I assumed going into this summer, which I knew would be stressful, I could use the marathon training as an escape. This has not been the case this time around.

Now, September 6, 2012 I sit at my desk feeling full, nasty and frumpy after having finished my lunch.  Now I have to ask myself:

Should I be like the majority of Americans and throw in the towel when it comes to running today?  I could easily let my booty inflate after carbo-loading and following it up with no exercise whatsoever;


Should I run tonight.  Even when tired, push past the exhaustion and force myself to cover some distance no matter how feeble or little that distance ends up being.

Really though, I should try to get some rest and focus my energy on why I am so obsessed with my weight.  I thought this was an obsession I left behind myself in my high school years.  Can I blame the obsession on societal and social pressures or should I just admit the only person judging me for my food intake is me?

I know the answer, but it doesn’t make it easy.  Instead of addressing any of these questions and making a decision right now I instead will listen to some Destiny’s Child.  I just feel like a Bootylicious moment after taking a moment to very briefly touch on my thoughts about eating, weight and running.

Why a marathon and not a 5k?

Why a marathon and not a 5k?

Why run a marathon?  People ask me why I feel the need to run a marathon all the time.  They follow that question up with comments like, “why not run a 5k or 10k?”  A lot of people see the sheer distance of a marathon as ridiculous and many view them as unhealthy in the end.  That much running can cause joint issues or damage to your knees.

Yes, I have heard all this, but what the people who say these things don’t take into account are the positive things training and running a marathon can do for an individual.  Running is a lifestyle for some people, not just an exercise.

I grew up in a running family.  Before I could walk I was in a stroller going along on group runs with the Hash House Harriers.  The Hash is an international running group that mixes exercising and socializing into one event.  Even though the Hash is probably not the most appropriate group for children to hang around with, in large part because it is a group that circles around drinking and crude humor, it is a great experience that I highly recommend to all.  The group, and every hash is a bit different, is a game really.  One person, the hare, sets out before the group and marks a trail as s/he goes.  At points along the trail the hare will make misleading markings on the trail to send the runners, or hounds, in the wrong direction.  The point is for the runners to find the end by following the hare’s trail and not falling for the misleading markings that might be found.  The end of the run is always at a bar or pub of some sort.  Running to most of the people in these groups is both fun and a lifestyle.  They integrate running into their socializing.  This was my first lesson in living life as a runner.

With this being my first introduction to running you might be able to see why running is a part of who I am today and a part of what makes running a part of my lifestyle.  If that weren’t enough then you should know that my parents weren’t just hashers as I grew up, nope, they were racers.  I can’t tell you how many marathons, including the Boston Marathon, my mom and dad ran because they ran in so many!  To top it off they also have both run 50 mile races and Ultra Marathons (which is a 100 mile race).  I can’t close my eyes and remember a time when my family wasn’t running.  It became a part of me and is in my blood.

With that explained you probably are asking, what does running a marathon do for me personally in a positive way?  You get that running in general is a part of me at this point, but why not a 5k or a shorter race?  Well for me running a marathon, as oppose to a shorter race, gives me a long-term goal to focus on.  I can run a 5k in my sleep with no preparation.  A marathon though, that’s a challenge.  I live for challenges.  A marathon takes 16 – 18 weeks of dedicated training.  It’s a test of determination, organization and dedication.  Running a marathon is not about just going out for runs until you are ready for race day. Marathons take strictly calculated running calendars to be successful.  You can’t allow yourself to over sleep or go to happy hour instead of train.  You must train.

This need to keep on track keeps me from getting off track in life.  It proves to me that I can accomplish my goals.  Completing a marathon shows me that I can do anything I want to do in life.  It may sound crazy, but I do need to prove to myself from time to time that I am more than a gay guy drinking on the scene every night of the week, not that I have been accused of that or anything, but it gives me a personal goal outside of work and the bar scene.

On a different level, training for a marathon allows me to connect with my mother who lives hundreds of miles away.  If we were running a 5K we would sign up for it and not talk about it again until race day.  With a marathon we track our progress together, we motivate each other, we support each other and then we run the race together.  It gives me a way to feel like, even while living far away from home, home is still a part of me.

Basically running makes me feel free.  Work disappears for a moment.  Family and friend drama melts away.  Bills take a side step.  Life, for the moment, is nothing but my feet hitting the ground and carrying me forward.  Running is a lifestyle and huge part of me.

Ready to Run by the Dixie Chicks