Tag Archives: Astoria

Moving… forward

Sitting at my computer on more than one occasion, I have tried to write about this topic multiple times.  Each time I get distracted and push the delete button.  Once or twice I was distracted by life, phones ringing or having to rush off to something like work or a social event.  Once or twice I hit writers block and once or twice I realized I did not like what I was writing.

I think all those distractions stem from one specific thing and that things is that my brain just can’t seem to be in one place.  Most

The view from my new building in Astoria

people that know me know that 2012 has been a struggle for me in finding myself, starting a new life and really just trying to make the world around me make sense.  That’s actually the reason why I changed my website from my name to bobbytbd.com.  This year my life has been focused on determining everything there is to me.

The point of mentioning all that is to say that every time I sit down to write about my move I can’t shake the negativity associated with it.  No matter what angel I take it seems I have to “throw some shade” in someone or anthers direction and that is not the type of person I want to be.

This move to Astoria served as the next to the last moment for me in the process to declare my independence and full control over my life.  For as long as I have been alive my life has been nothing but living with other people.  I moved from living with my parents to living with someone I was in a relationship.  For the first time in my life I live on my own.

This move was like a border being placed between my old life as Bobby Argabrite and my new life as Bobby Hall.  For the first time since all the hell in my life broke out into a public chaotic mess I have a place to go to where I can say, “this space is mine.
This space is safe. This space is for me.  This space is me.”

My room while I was putting it together.

The space is a room in a two bedroom apartment I share with a roommate.  The room is amazing.  It has two large windows that flood the room with natural light illuminating the bright colors I have strategically placed throughout.  I’ve carefully decorated the room in a light grey with yellow accents scattered around in pop color and color blocking fashion.  It’s an airy, light space full of positivity everywhere you turn.  It’s a space that is full of my personality, which is something I’ve not really had in a very long time.  It kind of defines my personality, the personality I am trying to re-engage with.

It also is a space that satisfies every need I recently realized I have when I need to be alone.  It has a bed full of pillows to lay on.  There is a windowsill for me to sit in and read and a “living room area” with a couch and TV for me to veg out at.  In this space I can turn my music on and flutter around the room writing on my laptop and expressing all my thoughts and feelings in the privacy of my own home.  I can escape into my own world in that space and that is something I’ve needed more than anything for a while now.  It’s taking Bobby TBD and slowly helping me become more than an acronym.

One thing I’ve needed is to have a space, even if I don’t use it often, to call my own and where I am comfortable and safe being alone at.   This is that space.

I’m taking a giant leap forward and know that the past is just that, the past.  The sadness, pain, fear and anger that consumed so much of my thoughts and emotions in the early part of 2012 are behind me.  Now I am moving forward.

Why you should ask me to be your roommate!

Why you should ask me to be your roommate!

Finding an apartment to rent or room to rent in New York City is one of the most time consuming and often aggravating processes in the world. I’ve been going through all the possible websites to find a room to rent or apartment and decided I’d take my search one step farther.  I’ve decided to let the room find me!  As one of my favorite women ever, Whitney Houston, said, Step by Step. I am looking for an apartment or room to rent and I specifically want it to be in Astoria.

I’d make a good roommate. Why? Well, let’s see.

I have a steady job so you know I’ll make my rent. My credit score is high (trust me I checked it today). I’m gay, let’s just put that out there! Who doesn’t want a gay roommate? It’s like having a real life floor length mirror that talks back and will never let you walk out of the apartment in the wrong shoes. I’ll probably spend 3 – 5 days a week away, so you get a roommate while almost living alone. Talk about a quiet roommate right?

I have an adorable pug who loves almost everyone she meets (but she does have standards). She is sweet, well-trained and there isn’t a person on earth who doesn’t fall in love with her. She is American Kennel Club (AKC) approved and she will only spend about 50% of her time in my apartment as I like to take her with me if I will be away.

If that doesn’t make me sound appealing maybe this will… I can cook. I like to consider myself the gay Martha Deen (Paula Deen and Martha Stewarts illegitimate child). Okay, I’m not that good, but I promise I can cook.

I clean, but at the same time don’t mind if you aren’t anally on top of your dishes. Cleaning gives me something to do when I get bored with TV and who are we kidding, TV is boring lately so you can count on a clean apartment.

I’m an excellent mixologist. Seriously though, what gay isn’t? If you like my cooking you’ll love my mixing. Not only do I mix though, I am a really good wine shopper. If you have $10 I can guarantee we can find a good wine to sip while sitting on the couch if we share a roommate movie night together.

I have tons of music a roommate could have access to. That’s obviously just a side perk to living with me. I love music and listen to it most of the time. When I write I rarely write in silence, but I prefer to wear headphones so the music won’t bother you if you aren’t a music person. I’m so considerate that way!

Also, I shouldn’t forget to mention, I am a runner. Runner for life in fact. If you need motivation to get yourself out on the pavement I am your guy (but you don’t have to run with me of course, just putting that sentiment out there).

If you’re a girl I have a few straight guy friends you may just hit it off with, if you are gay I have tons of perfect gay friends and if you are a straight man… all bets are off. Just kidding! If you are a straight man you can just imagine how many hot girl friends I have that I am happy to invite or not invite around.

After four years of living in Manhattan I think it’s time for a change. I want to live in Astoria and bring the Queen out in me! Oh, I mean the Queens out in me.

So what do you think? You want to live with me right? Or you know someone who would? Let me know!

Help me find a room to rent and a roommate!

Help me find a room to rent and a roommate!

It’s time to take another step in defining Bobby.  As one of my favorite women ever, Whitney Houston, said, Step by Step.  This step is finding an apartment.  With that said, I am not looking for an apartment.  I am looking for a room to rent and I specifically want it to be in Astoria.

I’d make a good roommate.  Why?  Well, let’s see.

  • I have a steady job so you know I’ll make my rent.
  • I’ll probably spend 3 – 5 days a week away, so you get a roommate while almost living alone.
  • I have an adorable petite black pug.  She is sweet, well-trained and there isn’t a person on earth who doesn’t fall in love with her.  She is American Kennel Club (AKC) approved and she will only spend about 50% of her time in my apartment.
  • I cook.
  • I clean.
  • I’m an excellent mixologist.
  • I have tons of music a roommate could have access to (or burn).
  • My friends are amazing.
  • and I’m not that loud when home.  I like to put headphones in, listen to music and write when I am not out running miles around the neighborhood.
  • If your straight I have tons of hot girl friends and if you are gay I have tons of perfect gay friends.

Why do I think this is BobbyTBD.com worthy?  That’s obvious to me.  Finding a new place is step toward doing something on my own.  Not only will this space be my own, but it will be in a new neighborhood for me.   I want a drastic change and what is more drastic than leaving the west side of Manhattan for Astoria, Queens?

I think it’s time we bring the queen out in me or at least the Queens out in me!  I’m not queeny enough yet… right?

So what do you think?  You want to live with me right?  Or you know someone who would?  Let me know!