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Smudging your home – Cast out negative energy

smudgeWhile innocently walking through my office Thursday afternoon my colleague stopped me to say,

You know Bobby, you sure are having some bad luck in your apartment. Maybe you should cleanse the place. Get rid of negative energy, spirits, etc. Just get some sage and sage your apartment as well as yourself and your boyfriend.

Prior to moving to Los Angeles I would have thought this person crazy.  In all my years growing up in the south and then living in New York City for six years I had never heard of “cleansing” your home with sage. After moving to Los Angeles though I have already taken part in the cleansing of a friends condo.

I didn’t really understand what we were doing at first beyond her saying she was blessing her new home.  She walked around the entire two bedroom condo with burning sage in her hand chanting as she waved it around making sure the smoke spread throughout the entire place while those of us with her followed her around.

I figured that this friend who was cleansing and blessing her new home was typically an eccentric person, so I didn’t question it.  It wasn’t until my colleague suggested I cleanse my apartment that I took the time to research what the meaning behind this was.

That’s when I learned that the act of cleansing/blessing your home with sage is called smudging.  Smudging is the burning of herbs, in this case white sage to remove negative energy indoors and outdoors to purify spaces and objects.  It’s an ancient Native American practice.

The second I heard it was a Native American practice I was sold.  I am Native American after all.  That’s right, this pasty faced white boy is a true blue registered Choctaw, but obviously my Irish shows the most.

I’ve always loved Native American spirituality over modern organized religion so I’ve decided after researching what it means to smudge your home I have decided, along with my boyfriend, to smudge our home.

Now that we know what smudging is how do you do it?

First you have to buy a bundle of white sage. You can actually buy smudge sage that is bundled specifically for this practice and can be found at stores like:

  • The Farmers Market at the Grove in Los Angeles
  • Whole Foods
  • Most organic grocery stores
  • Any store that features incents

Once you have purchased your sage you just head on home from there.  Once home enter your house and leave the door open. From there you light the end of the bundle of sage and wave it slowly around in the air until it begins to give off wafts of smoke.

Walk around your home as if your were following a clock moving to your left first.  As you move around your home say a prayer or chant casting out negative energy.  There are many different suggestions out there as to what you should be saying but a simple chant like:

I banish all negative energies from this house with the energy of love and light.

will suffice.

Once you return to your front door you can move outside to smudge your entry way.  Once you are done find a sage place like an outdoor fireplace, a fireproof pot or something along those lines to place the smoldering sage to let it smoke itself out.

This will rid your home of negative energies that can really be affecting your home.  It’s my hope that this helps save me from any more drama for the time being.  I could use a month without an iPhone breaking or falling in the toilet or an elderly family member falling in my living room or friends fighting at one of our parties.  I think everyone could use some positive energy in their lives and homes and this is one thing you can try to cast out negativity.

If only someone in New York had told me about this trick because I feel like my home there was filled with negativity for years.  Thank you California friends and colleagues for this idea!

Why you should ask me to be your roommate!

Why you should ask me to be your roommate!

Finding an apartment to rent or room to rent in New York City is one of the most time consuming and often aggravating processes in the world. I’ve been going through all the possible websites to find a room to rent or apartment and decided I’d take my search one step farther.  I’ve decided to let the room find me!  As one of my favorite women ever, Whitney Houston, said, Step by Step. I am looking for an apartment or room to rent and I specifically want it to be in Astoria.

I’d make a good roommate. Why? Well, let’s see.

I have a steady job so you know I’ll make my rent. My credit score is high (trust me I checked it today). I’m gay, let’s just put that out there! Who doesn’t want a gay roommate? It’s like having a real life floor length mirror that talks back and will never let you walk out of the apartment in the wrong shoes. I’ll probably spend 3 – 5 days a week away, so you get a roommate while almost living alone. Talk about a quiet roommate right?

I have an adorable pug who loves almost everyone she meets (but she does have standards). She is sweet, well-trained and there isn’t a person on earth who doesn’t fall in love with her. She is American Kennel Club (AKC) approved and she will only spend about 50% of her time in my apartment as I like to take her with me if I will be away.

If that doesn’t make me sound appealing maybe this will… I can cook. I like to consider myself the gay Martha Deen (Paula Deen and Martha Stewarts illegitimate child). Okay, I’m not that good, but I promise I can cook.

I clean, but at the same time don’t mind if you aren’t anally on top of your dishes. Cleaning gives me something to do when I get bored with TV and who are we kidding, TV is boring lately so you can count on a clean apartment.

I’m an excellent mixologist. Seriously though, what gay isn’t? If you like my cooking you’ll love my mixing. Not only do I mix though, I am a really good wine shopper. If you have $10 I can guarantee we can find a good wine to sip while sitting on the couch if we share a roommate movie night together.

I have tons of music a roommate could have access to. That’s obviously just a side perk to living with me. I love music and listen to it most of the time. When I write I rarely write in silence, but I prefer to wear headphones so the music won’t bother you if you aren’t a music person. I’m so considerate that way!

Also, I shouldn’t forget to mention, I am a runner. Runner for life in fact. If you need motivation to get yourself out on the pavement I am your guy (but you don’t have to run with me of course, just putting that sentiment out there).

If you’re a girl I have a few straight guy friends you may just hit it off with, if you are gay I have tons of perfect gay friends and if you are a straight man… all bets are off. Just kidding! If you are a straight man you can just imagine how many hot girl friends I have that I am happy to invite or not invite around.

After four years of living in Manhattan I think it’s time for a change. I want to live in Astoria and bring the Queen out in me! Oh, I mean the Queens out in me.

So what do you think? You want to live with me right? Or you know someone who would? Let me know!

Help me find a room to rent and a roommate!

Help me find a room to rent and a roommate!

It’s time to take another step in defining Bobby.  As one of my favorite women ever, Whitney Houston, said, Step by Step.  This step is finding an apartment.  With that said, I am not looking for an apartment.  I am looking for a room to rent and I specifically want it to be in Astoria.

I’d make a good roommate.  Why?  Well, let’s see.

  • I have a steady job so you know I’ll make my rent.
  • I’ll probably spend 3 – 5 days a week away, so you get a roommate while almost living alone.
  • I have an adorable petite black pug.  She is sweet, well-trained and there isn’t a person on earth who doesn’t fall in love with her.  She is American Kennel Club (AKC) approved and she will only spend about 50% of her time in my apartment.
  • I cook.
  • I clean.
  • I’m an excellent mixologist.
  • I have tons of music a roommate could have access to (or burn).
  • My friends are amazing.
  • and I’m not that loud when home.  I like to put headphones in, listen to music and write when I am not out running miles around the neighborhood.
  • If your straight I have tons of hot girl friends and if you are gay I have tons of perfect gay friends.

Why do I think this is BobbyTBD.com worthy?  That’s obvious to me.  Finding a new place is step toward doing something on my own.  Not only will this space be my own, but it will be in a new neighborhood for me.   I want a drastic change and what is more drastic than leaving the west side of Manhattan for Astoria, Queens?

I think it’s time we bring the queen out in me or at least the Queens out in me!  I’m not queeny enough yet… right?

So what do you think?  You want to live with me right?  Or you know someone who would?  Let me know!