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How I got myself to go to the gym again

images (1)I did it! I’m not impressed with myself, but I am proud of myself.  I went to the gym after work today.  I could have easily gone straight home, walked my dogs and bummed around.  Instead I made the choice to set my Waze app to direct me on how to get to my gym as quickly as possible.

That’s what I am learning.  Since I am not in the phase of working out where I love it I have to do a few things to get myself share-imageinto gear.

The first thing I learned was that I need a gym that is convenient and doesn’t cause me to go out of my way or take a lot of added time to travel to.  That was pretty easy in New York City, but I have found it more difficult in Los Angeles.

Yes there are gyms here, but in West Hollywood it seems like all the gyms are expensive and crowded.  That seems like a double gym negative.  Not to mention that a lot of the gyms are apparently very gay.  I mean people cruise at them.  I don’t need that. I have a man.

The gym closest to my office that is affordable is the LA Fitness on Bundy, but it is also crowded.  Unfortunately it’s also ghetto, the staff are rude and you have to pay for parking.  If I am paying a for a gym membership why am I also paying you to park?

imagesLuckily my wonderful fiancé found the LA Fitness Signature Club in Beverly Hills.  It’s not the best gym ever, but it has all the basics.  It has a constant flow of members in and out of the gym, but you never really have to wait for any machines so I can’t complain. It is closer to my apartment, but it only took 30 minutes to get their today from my office and is on the way home.

That’s the first trick. Make the gym convenient and easy to get to and go.

The second trick I’ve learned is motivation.  I need motivation to go.  Thinking I am a little heavier than I want to be and feeling horrible about it is surprisingly not motivation enough.  What’s really helped has been no pressure motivation.

The first thing I have been doing is whether or not my fiancé goes to the gym or runs outside I try to work out on the same days.  If I am not feeling it, but he is running, I have been pushing myself to at least get into the gym.

Fitbit Flex. It can be found at stores like Best Buys,, etc.
Nike+ GPS Watch. Great for tracking your runs!

The second motivational trick I’ve been utilizing has been Fitbit (I use the Fitbit Flex) and Nike+.  Both are great ways to put a bit of competition into the mix motivating me to keep pushing.  With Fitbit you track your steps each day.  It also helps you track your weight, food intake, calories, water intake and it lets you compete with friends and family for who has taken the most steps in a 7 day period.  What I really love is that if I see I have only hit 8,000 steps in a day the app is a helpful reminder for me to get up and go for a walk during my lunch break.  Believe it or not it works!

The third motivational trick is to schedule a vacation that requires you to be shirtless. That’s what I’ve done.  I now have until September to get my body into tiptop shape. No one wants to feel like a pregnant woman at the side of the pool unless you are in fact a pregnant woman of course.

It’s worked for now.  Here is to hoping it continues to work.  With that said I am still struggling with how to eat healthier, although I did love the Mexican food last night and the Pringle’s I had with my lunch.

Let’s recap things to help get yourself to the gym when you have no desire to, but know you need to:

  1. Convenience
  2. Motivation
  3. Beach or Pool Vacations, you never want to be the fat guy in a swimsuit!
You don't want to be the fat guy at the gym!
You don’t want to be the fat guy at the gym!

Join my team for The Color Run Los Angeles!

As you may have noticed, I have slowly increased the amount of races I take part in.  It really became clear to me quickly when I moved to Los Angeles that I had to make sure I was living a healthy lifestyle if I was going to be a resident here.  Everyone is always eating healthy, doing Yoga, going to boot camps, drinking strange health powdered drinks and participating in every other “health” fad out there.  I can’t really partake in those type of activities though.

I have to be motivated to exercise.  Fun runs are a way to do that. That’s why I’ve created a team called Gays of Our Lives for the 1:00 PM time slot to run as A Team Runner in THE COLOR RUN LOS ANGELES.

According to the event website The Color Run is:

Less about your 10-minute-mile and more about having the time of your life, The Color Run is a five-kilometer, un-timed race in which thousands of participants, or “Color Runners”, are doused from head to toe in different colors at each kilometer. With only two rules, the idea is easy to follow:

1.  Wear white at the starting line
2.  Finish plastered in color!

The fun continues after Color Runners complete the race with an unforgettable Finish Festival. This larger than life party is equipped with music, dancing and massive color throws, which create millions of vivid color combinations. Trust us, this is the best post-5k party on the planet!

Registration is open now!

If you haven’t registered yet, you can register and join the team here:

If you’ve already registered, you can join the team here:

You can also find more information at the event website:

Please let me know if you would like to join our team, register and join, all are welcome! help motivate me to keep running, run yourself and have fun.

I’m running the LA Marathon in 5 days! See how you can help!

Dear Readers,Donate

Sunday, March 9th is right around the corner, just 5 short days away!  Am I ready or not for the LA Marathon?  It’s going to be tough.  I’d be lying if I said otherwise. 

While I’ve made a tremendous effort to train for this race, I am not unaware of the fact that I could have done a better job.  I started my training late and missed a few practice runs. Regardless, I am pushing forward and continuing on.  I’ve run all over Los Angeles from West Hollywood to Santa Monica Beach, all around Beverly Hills and throughout Westwood and Brentwood.  I will continue to run no matter how hard it is.

I’m not running for myself, I’m running for something greater than myself.  I’m running for the Turtle!  A year-round medical specialty camp for children with chronic and life-threatening illnesses.  It’s truly a remarkable organization that changes the lives of the children and families it serves.

As the organization enters it’s 10th year of serving children with chronic illnesses, over 30 different illnesses are served, I feel it’s the best time to get involved with making this event a huge success.  In the 10 years this organization has been in operation they have served over 30,000 campers.

My goal was originally to raise $1,000 on paper, but my real goal has been to raise as much money as possible.  I ask you to dig deep and make a donation of any size to help send a child to camp here.  The organization has received a challenge.  If we raise a total of $35,000 through the marathon we will receive an additional $25,000 donation via a challenge grant.  We still have a ways to go so I am increasing my personal minimum fundraising goal and asking you for help.

Please send this to anyone and everyone you know and let’s make a difference together!

If you want to know more about The Painted Turtle and how it helps children in need of a little camp magic watch this amazing video by PBS American Milestones.



Support my race and your donation will be doubled today!

Bobbytbd race jpgThe holiday’s are definitely upon us.  I’ve already began living in a state of holiday frenzy with holiday party, after holiday part, after holiday brunches, after holiday work events, and gearing up for travel. That’s really left me little time to write unfortunately.

With that said I can’t help but take a moment to make a few announcements about the 2014 LA Marathon, which I am running with my mom and now my Aunt and boyfriend as well, to raise money for a wonderful cause focused on providing a year-round medical specialty camp for children with chronic illness.

With added members to our team our team goal as risen from $2,000 to $3,000!  We have raised $830 so far, but still have a ways to go! The good news is that a donor of the organization has offered an exciting matching grant opportunity. Every donation made will be doubled. That means:

You Give We Get Picture UPDATED 12.16.13

If you don’t know much about the camp please take a moment to watch the brief and amazing American Milestones video below.  Every dollar will go directly to helping a child experience the magic of camp and to reclaim their childhood.

An update on my running progress will follow!

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It’s getting dark way too early! #RunnerProblems

DonateI’m sitting at my desk with the large glass windows behind me as they flood in ligh…. oh wait, it’s 4:53 pm.  The windows aren’t flooding in light! All the windows are doing is showing me how the day is coming to an end.  The sun is setting early thanks to the fact that it’s almost winter.  All the large glass windows are doing is reminding me that I need to figure out how the heck I am supposed to train for the LA Marathon.

Step one of my training is to get in shape for the Turkey Boogie 1/2 Marathon which will be held in Santa Monica, CA on November 30th.  My boyfriend Blair and I are committed to running this race. With just a few weeks left to train I have to say, I’m in for a rude awakening!

Because the sun is setting before I even leave my office I realized the other day that I have to figure out a new routine.  Gone are the days of leaving my office at the end of the day, throwing on some running clothes in my car and taking a nice long run in the sun along the beach. Finding a new routine isn’t easy though.  The only three options that I have come up with so far include:

  1. Run in the dark – My mother would not be happy with this option!
  2. Wake up early and run in the mornings before work – We will get back to this one.
  3. Join a gym – Which was my mode of operation when I lived in New York City.

Running in the dark is just not an option. It’s not safe, my mother (yes I am 27-years-old, but I will still listen to her) is against this.  Obviously I didn’t even need to explain that since all I have written about is how the sun setting early is causing me issues when it comes to running.  Let’s move on, shall we?

Waking up early has never been my strength.  Some people are morning people, some people are night people and some people are a mixture of the two.  I am notoriously a night owl. When the alarm goes off in the morning you can count on me to hit the snooze button a few times. What to do?

Should I join a gym? Well that has it’s downsides too.  The closest gym to my office is a YMCA or Equinox.  The YMCA is a family YMCA and is always swamped with children.  The Equinox is expensive and out of my budget.  That leaves me with LA Fitness which is over a mile away from both my job and my home.

With all those factors laid out I realized quickly that I had only one viable option to attempt and that is to wake up before work and run in the mornings.  Knowing that this would not be a challenge that I would excel at right away I decided it was time to make more than one change.  Not only am I increasing my running, obviously a must for training for a marathon or 1/2 marathon.  Not only am I waking up early, which we established is the best option out of those I presented.  I will also be adjusting one other thing in my life.  Alcohol.

November will not see a detox to the extent of which I did in May of 2012. Nope, I won’t be cutting alcohol out of my diet completely, but I have decided to restrict my intact.  I will no longer have a single drink unless it is at a social or work function on the weekends.  That way my body and mind will be easier to rouse in the mornings.

This morning was one of those mornings. It was easier to wake than it has been in the past, by my first morning run was none-the-less a struggle. As humiliated as I am to post this I still have to admit that I only hit 2.3 miles this morning.

It’s a start! One way to motivate me is by making a donation toward my efforts to raise funds for this wonderful organization that provides a year-round medical specialty camp for children with chronic and life-threatening illnesses which you can learn more about by clicking on the graphic link above that says DONATE!

Mother & Son Running For a Cause!

Mom and I running the Bronx 1/2 Marathon to raise money for HealthRight International.
Mom and I running the Bronx 1/2 Marathon to raise money for HealthRight International.

In 2007 I decided to run the Richmond, Virginia marathon with my mother and then a few years later we hit the road to run the Bronx, New York 1/2 marathon.

I first got introduced to the sport of running by my mother. Running is a huge part of her life.  If you know her, you know her as a runner.  Someone who can’t take in air unless she knows she will be able to exercise soon. With countless marathons, 50 mile races and 100 mile ultra marathons under her belt she is definitely a runner to look up to and a runner who has influenced my health and life for the better.

A lot of people try to find ways to bond with their parents. This isn’t something I’ve ever had to struggle with in my life.  Luckily my mom and I have a great relationship and sync with each other on many levels.

One of the things we have grown to enjoy most is running together.  Now, 7 years after the first marathon we’ve ever run together we have decided to commit ourselves to running another race together (additional family members including my boyfriend may be joining our team later on).

This time around we decided running together wasn’t enough, although it’s plenty of fun. No, this time we have decided to dedicate our efforts of training for and running a marathon, the 2014 LA Marathon, to raise money for cause.

We are running to raise funds and awareness for The Painted Turtle!  Our team goal is $2,000 as of right now ($1,000 each). For those of you who don’t know, The Painted Turtle, a year round medical specialty camp where children with serious medical conditions can go to just be kids.

As a background, The Painted Turtle’s mission is to provide a year-round, life-changing environment and authentic camp experience for children with chronic and life-threatening illnesses. The Painted Turtle supports children’s medical needs, inspires them to reach beyond their illnesses, and provides care, education and respite for their families. All campers and families attend free of charge.

As individual supporters we hope that through our networks we can help this wonderful

Mom and I after we completed the Richmond, Virginia Marathon in 2007.
Mom and I after we completed the Richmond, Virginia Marathon in 2007.

cause.  To follow my progress as I begin my training, sign-up to receive email updates for when new post are made by filling out the box on the upper right hand side of this screen or check back regularly. All post will be under the “running” category or can be found on my homepage.

To learn more about The Painted Turtle or to donate toward our goals and support The

Painted Turtle please visit my page here!

A donation of any amount will make a difference in the life of a child. 

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Why a marathon and not a 5k?

Why a marathon and not a 5k?

Why run a marathon?  People ask me why I feel the need to run a marathon all the time.  They follow that question up with comments like, “why not run a 5k or 10k?”  A lot of people see the sheer distance of a marathon as ridiculous and many view them as unhealthy in the end.  That much running can cause joint issues or damage to your knees.

Yes, I have heard all this, but what the people who say these things don’t take into account are the positive things training and running a marathon can do for an individual.  Running is a lifestyle for some people, not just an exercise.

I grew up in a running family.  Before I could walk I was in a stroller going along on group runs with the Hash House Harriers.  The Hash is an international running group that mixes exercising and socializing into one event.  Even though the Hash is probably not the most appropriate group for children to hang around with, in large part because it is a group that circles around drinking and crude humor, it is a great experience that I highly recommend to all.  The group, and every hash is a bit different, is a game really.  One person, the hare, sets out before the group and marks a trail as s/he goes.  At points along the trail the hare will make misleading markings on the trail to send the runners, or hounds, in the wrong direction.  The point is for the runners to find the end by following the hare’s trail and not falling for the misleading markings that might be found.  The end of the run is always at a bar or pub of some sort.  Running to most of the people in these groups is both fun and a lifestyle.  They integrate running into their socializing.  This was my first lesson in living life as a runner.

With this being my first introduction to running you might be able to see why running is a part of who I am today and a part of what makes running a part of my lifestyle.  If that weren’t enough then you should know that my parents weren’t just hashers as I grew up, nope, they were racers.  I can’t tell you how many marathons, including the Boston Marathon, my mom and dad ran because they ran in so many!  To top it off they also have both run 50 mile races and Ultra Marathons (which is a 100 mile race).  I can’t close my eyes and remember a time when my family wasn’t running.  It became a part of me and is in my blood.

With that explained you probably are asking, what does running a marathon do for me personally in a positive way?  You get that running in general is a part of me at this point, but why not a 5k or a shorter race?  Well for me running a marathon, as oppose to a shorter race, gives me a long-term goal to focus on.  I can run a 5k in my sleep with no preparation.  A marathon though, that’s a challenge.  I live for challenges.  A marathon takes 16 – 18 weeks of dedicated training.  It’s a test of determination, organization and dedication.  Running a marathon is not about just going out for runs until you are ready for race day. Marathons take strictly calculated running calendars to be successful.  You can’t allow yourself to over sleep or go to happy hour instead of train.  You must train.

This need to keep on track keeps me from getting off track in life.  It proves to me that I can accomplish my goals.  Completing a marathon shows me that I can do anything I want to do in life.  It may sound crazy, but I do need to prove to myself from time to time that I am more than a gay guy drinking on the scene every night of the week, not that I have been accused of that or anything, but it gives me a personal goal outside of work and the bar scene.

On a different level, training for a marathon allows me to connect with my mother who lives hundreds of miles away.  If we were running a 5K we would sign up for it and not talk about it again until race day.  With a marathon we track our progress together, we motivate each other, we support each other and then we run the race together.  It gives me a way to feel like, even while living far away from home, home is still a part of me.

Basically running makes me feel free.  Work disappears for a moment.  Family and friend drama melts away.  Bills take a side step.  Life, for the moment, is nothing but my feet hitting the ground and carrying me forward.  Running is a lifestyle and huge part of me.

Ready to Run by the Dixie Chicks