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Nicolle Wallace’s comments on our soldiers at war offends me

photo courtesy of ABC The View
photo courtesy of ABC The View

Is Nicolle Wallace going to be another Elisabeth Hassellback or is she going to drive me insane? I loved watching Elisabeth, which is saying something as I am a flaming liberal.  I disagreed with her, but I at least felt she spoke intelligently and respectfully.

Nicolle Wallace is new to me, like many viewers of the ABC show The View.  The first clip I’ve watched of Nicolle on the show has already gotten under my skin.  I am deeply offended by her and her choice to say:

In this country we don’t all go to war right? The military families go to war. Those mom’s and dad’s of soldiers, men and women, the wives, the kids, they go years without seeing their kids. Those deployments are endless.

I think it’s doing our military a disservice to say they are the only ones at war. To say their families are the only ones in America who are at war with them is just wrong. While I agree they may go through a lot more I disagree with Nicolle’s comments none-the-less.

Nicolle, you’re a conservative right? Well I think your comments are ignorant and foolish and not because you are a conservative, but because you seem to forget one important thing. We are the United States of America. We are one country united in a belief of freedom and democracy. When one man or woman stands behind enemy lines we stand with them. Maybe not in person, but in spirit.

If we didn’t then what is the point in joining the military to defend the people of this great country?  They are fighting for us, but also with us.

I’m sick of political commentators being separatist. There are thousands of men and women around this country who stand behind our men and women in arms. They cook food, they prepare care packages, they send letters, they perform with the USO, they train dogs to go overseas and watch as they are shipped off.  It’s just not right to negate all the other people who support our soldier and contribute to our many war efforts.

I think military men and women and their families deserve 100% of our respect, gratitude and admiration.  That’s where Nicolle and I probably agree.

None-the-less we are all one. We are America.  Remember after 9/11 when you would drive down the road and see flags flying from car windows, bumper magnets supporting our troops, and symbols remembering those we lost.

We can’t separate ourselves from the men and women in uniform or isolate them and their families. We need to stand beside them and behind them. We need to stand as one because they aren’t alone in their efforts to fight for freedoms around the world.

As a child of the military, my dad being a retired Colonel in the army, I grew up seeing just how many men and women dedicate their lives to our army, but aren’t actually enlisted. While they may not be risking their lives like soldiers they may be putting in the necessary effort to build safe tanks or safety equipment that is just as vital. Or they may stand and prey for their neighbors every night whom they love and cherish but know are overseas fighting.

Our military is a team. It’s a family and it’s a country. We are the United States and when one of us is at war we all are at war whether we agree with the war or not.

And I don’t agree with war.


Take the poll: What did you think of Julie Chen’s first look of the season?

Julie Chen, Host of CBS Big Brother - Source:
Julie Chen, Host of CBS Big Brother – Source:

One of the things I like about Big Brother on CBS is the host Julie Chen.  She never fails to entertain. Whether good or bad, she always brings something to the table.  If you are a fan you know what I am talking about.

Every episode there seems to be a new hairstyle, new dress, new look overall.  This year I want to rate those looks because I do look forward to seeing what she will be wearing and looking like during each episode.

Episode 1:

I love Julie Chen’s look in part 1 of the Season Premier of Big Brother Season 16.  The color radiates and her smile electrifies.  Her hair is kept simple, which is often her best look.  The make-up isn’t too crazy and overall I think she won it with this look. What do you think? Love it or hate it?

Julie Chen, Host of CBS Big Brother - Source:
Julie Chen, Host of CBS Big Brother – Source:

Lindsay Lohan, Amanda Bynes, Paris Hilton, Britney Spears… Have you turned your life around?

581085_4198602143608_1235072909_nLindsay, Amanda, Justin, Paris and even Britney are all examples of where our society is going wrong.  We shouldn’t be focused on the tragedy.  We should be focused on achievement.  Where are they now? What are they up to? Why are we only hearing about them when they mess up?

I realized how everything I read and embarrassingly almost everything I write is focusing on a negative angle of whatever topic I am interested in at the moment. Maybe it’s time to change that.

Okay, keep Justin Bieber. I don’t care to hear about him in any capacity, but when it comes to the rest of them I think it would be great to start hearing regular positive updates. For years we have had minute by minute updates of:

“Lindsay Lohan is late to court”

“Amanda Bynes is accused of a hit and run”

“Britney Spears flashes the world”

“Paris Hilton does something bad that she does bad”

“Justin Bieber is arrested… again”

But now that, with the exception of the douche bag Justin Bieber, these women are trying to get their act together.  Why aren’t we nearly as interested as we were when their lives were falling apart?  I want to hear more from the media about how the stars have turned themselves around and how we can learn from their actions. I realize it is covered some in the press, but at a fraction of the percent their mistakes have been covered. I want to hear things like:

“Amanda Bynes starts healthy living lifestyle, here is how you can over come addiction.”

“Lindsay Lohan faces the real life struggle of reintegrating into life after rehab with the use of a sober coach. Learn how a sober coach can help you!”

“Britney Spears celebrates life by becoming an organ donor.”

Why must we forget about them when their lives turnaround? I realize there is some positive press out there.  I know Lindsay has her documentary and Britney has her Las Vegas show, but unless I am missing something I think we only discuss the positive changes at fraction of how we talked about the negatives. Now is when we as fans should be supporting the stars like Lindsay, Amanda and Britney. Why aren’t we? What is wrong with our society?

Instead we are just turning our attention to the next celebrity disasters. Oh Miley, please pull it together. I am too in love with your art to lose you to the crazy side of celebrity.

Why do I care enough to write this?


FINE! If honest, I could never stop watching SYTYCD

6a00d8341c2c4f53ef01348560c70a970cFINE! I can’t hate So You Think You Can Dance.  It’s a great show, with a great vibe and typically great judgement.  I said it before and I’ll say it again.  There are a few very specific reasons I watch this show.

  1. I obviously am a big fan of Mary Murphy and Cat Deeley.  How could you not be?  So often on reality shows you can get the feeling that the judges and host are being fake. They are just there for the paycheck.  That is certainly not the case when it comes to So You Think You Can Dance.  You can tell that they love their jobs. It’s visible how much those involved with the show want to see talented young artist succeed.  How could I not appreciate that?
  2. The show isn’t about humiliating contestants, it’s about celebrating them. With other reality shows like American Idol I often feel disgusted, particularly early in a season, by how the show will highlight horrible performers.  That isn’t really the case when it comes to So You Think You Can Dance.  While they do show unique artists from time to time, they celebrate each persons passion over their lack of talent.  I appreciate that they take a celebratory approach to judging and when it comes to editing the show.  More television programs should follow this method.
  3. Up until recently the show has seemed to focus on being a positive influence and using dance as a way to encourage healthy living, artistic expression and the uniqueness of individuals.
  4. The passion that you see from all contestants at all levels is infectious. I can be sitting on my couch fuming after a long days work and still laugh or smile when I turn this show on.images (1)
  5. It’s a show that truly celebrates the good in the world and diversity.  Diversity by way of dance forms and diversity by pushing the envelope in other areas like when two men performed a beautiful duet last year.

It’s all these great things that upset me about Justin Bieber’s participation in the show.  Not only does he seem enthused by the show and his role on it, but he frankly seems high.  There was a reason why it was reported that he was going to take a year off of working.  He needs to get his act together.  I wish, in true SYTYCD fashion, the show wouldn’t have hired him in support of this performer getting his life in line and being a positive contributing part of society.

When I turn this show on I don’t want to see his glazed and baggy eyes telling me what I should and shouldn’t be voting for.  I want to see someone with passion for dance who can make me excited about dance crews.  I want to see someone who is inspiring and a good role model for our youth. Dance is a healthy expression. It can keep children off drugs, off the streets and out of trouble. So I still have to ask why. Why choose someone to be on the show that represents all things bad?

I can’t stop watching the show. There is too much good in it for me to allow one bad move on the shows part to force me to stop watching it.  I just hope the show creators, directors, whoever is in charge realize that Bieber is not a good person to be associating with. I’d say it’s time to cut him loose.





Disappointed in SYTYCD. Mug shots can be the new ad campaign!

The new face on SYTYCD
The new face on SYTYCD

justin-bieber-court justin-bieber-goes-to-jailI had hoped it was just the season premier, but after the episode that aired last night I am officially over So You Think You Can Dance (SYTYCD).  It’s sad to say it because I love this show.  From Mary Murphy’s upbeat spirit and infectious laugh to the passion I can physically feel radiating from the television as a dancer takes the stage, this is a show that has always made me happy.  They support dancers of all ages even allowing kids to get the experience of dancing on stage even if they aren’t old enough to audition.  I feel like they’ve set a good tone and have been good role models in the dancing and television worlds.

That is, until they chose Justin Bieber to appear on their show.  With countless youth watching this show how could SYTYCD put Justin in front of the camera. What lesson are they trying to teach here?  If you break the law countless times we will reward you!

Well that isn’t how I like to operate.  I appreciate seeing Justin in a sober state not surrounded by police or smiling like a goof in a mug shot, but was there really no other dancer or performer on earth that could have introduced the dance crews? I feel like this is an entirely new side of SYTYCD.  They no longer care about being family friendly, setting a respectable and good example for its viewers or upholding a certain level of dignity.

After 11 seasons I refuse to continue watching.  I’m disgusted with their decision and think the show should be ashamed.  If you want your show to be the symbol of how not to behave and succeed you have achieved it, but I really hope show creators take a second look at their choice.  Every time a new article pops up about Justin breaking a new law the show is associating with that.  Every time he illegally uses drugs and the show continues to support him they are telling kids it is okay to follow his actions.

Wake up SYTYCD. Our kids don’t need to be sheltered, but they also don’t need a family friendly show being a bad influence.




Bruno Mars is no Beyonce… His Halftime Show Was A Let Down!

bruno 2Honestly, I’m not the correct person to write about the Super Bowl game itself because I don’t know a lot about football.  None-the-less I have to say I was underwhelmed and disappointed.  Not only was I disappointed that the Denver Broncos lost since I was rooting for them, but I was disappointed because it was a pretty pathetic game.

There were no real exciting moments throughout the entire game.  No amazing plays to speak of at all.  Not even a touchdown dance worth reenacting.  What was with the 2014 Super Bowl?bruno

The other thing I was disappointed in was the halftime show.  This is something I have a little bit more knowledge in and pay much more attention to.  Bruno Mars let me down.  He was no Beyoncé, Madonna, Prince, Janet Jackson, or the many that came before him.

When I posted on Facebook yesterday:

Bruno… you were no Beyoncé… boring!!!!

beyonce 3There were a number of people that disagreed with me.  They loved his voice, music and stage performance. Okay, I can’t argue with you on that.  Bruno Mars has a great voice.  His music is both mainstream and catchy while also being original and fun.  He, himself, is very entertaining on stage.  You are taken back to the days of Jazz Bands and flashy suits as he and his band sway their hips back and forth.

yearsHe makes a great performer and can give a good show, but that’s not what the Super Bowl halftime show calls for.  I’m sorry but he was nowhere near as good as the legends that came before him.  The Super Bowl Halftime show isn’t just a concert.  Performers are not there to just put on a good show.  The Super Bowl Halftime Show is THE concert… not a concert. For many of us, it’s really the televised concert of the year.

It’s expected to be the best of the best.  The biggest, the badest, the brightest and most innovative performance of the year.  Remember when Beyoncé was performing and struck a pose and instead of a shadow behind her a fire was a blaze in her exact form?  I do!

madonnaDo you remember when Madonna fell to her knees singing Like a Prayer? Or do you remember Madonna’s performance at all because it was insanely amazing from beginning to end full of excitement, surprises and things you’ve never seen before done live! The same thing goes for Beyoncé!

Bruno didn’t deliver anything besides great songs sang with a great voice.  He got on stage, sang the exact same songs we hear everyday exactly how they sound on the album.  He danced exactly as he has done on every award show we’ve seen him on and then the show was over.

Let’s not ever compare The Red Hot Chili Peppers and the Destiny’s Child Reunion.  Obviously Destiny’s Child kicked the Red Hot Chili Peppers butt.  They popped up on to the stage, literally straight out of the ground, and looked as fierce as they ever had.  The Red Hot Chili Peppers hobbled onto the stage shirtless and reminding us why some men aren’t meant to be shirtless at the beach.

Bruno Mars is a great artist, but when it comes down to it his halftime show was boring for a halftime show. Beyonce

You May Get No Satisfaction… But I Love Britney Spears

anigif_enhanced-buzz-9916-1380726268-17_previewI barely take fan moments because I don’t have a lot of celebrities that I simply adore.  You know how some people are just obsessed with certain musicians, entertainers and actors? Well I have my well known obsession with Whitney Houston, but another obsession I don’t talk about as much is Britney Spears.

People are all over social media trashing her for her dancing in her newest music video.  Blasting the song she released titled Work Bitch saying things like:

Where is the old Britney?

What happened to the Britney that could dance her ass off?

So Over Britney…

Before I address those questions I have to tell you why I feel an obligation to support her and her career.

This isn’t a new obsession.  I fell in love with her from the very first time I had ever heard one of her songs. I remember it as if it was yesterday. Way back in 1999 when I was in middle school …Baby One More TIme was released.  As a gay boy who had not yet come out her album called to me and touched my heart.  I was one of those boys who dreamed of love.  A love that I never thought was possible. I wanted it all. I wanted the first kiss, the feeling of butterflies in my stomach.  I wanted to feel heartbreak, just to know someone loved me enough to break my heart.  I was depressed back then if that wasn’t clear.

None-the-less I was able to lock myself into my bedroom and put in the very first studio album by Britney Spears, …Baby One More Time. I’d play through the songs dreaming of the love, emotions and feelings behind songs like:

  • I Will Be There
  • (You Drive Me) Crazy
  • Deep In My Heart
  • Born to Make You Happy
  • Sometimes
  • and of course …Baby One More Time

The music flowed through me as if the music was dancing in my heart telling me I would find love. I would date. I would find the life that I have now, but back then scared the hell out of me.

Yes, maybe that’s a lot to credit Britney’s music with, but if you don’t believe me you can take a flying leap! Okay, just kidding. I do believe you are welcome to your own opinions.

As I grew Britney continued to inspire me. As I entered high school I realized I couldn’t hide who I was any more so I came out at 16.  It wasn’t easy.  In fact it was terrifying and one of the most painful times of my life.  I’d find myself crying constantly, but have no fear. I was still able to go home and put in the newest album by Britney Spears, Oops…I Did It Again.

I’d play Stronger on repeat.  Because I knew I could do it.  I was a year older, a year wiser and frankly as the song said “I didn’t need anybody”.  I learned that I was strong and my own person.  After a makeover thanks to a team of cheerleaders I launched myself into what I felt was a new persona and regardless of how people felt “What You See Is What You Get” which happened to be another song on Britney’s second studio album.

From there she inspired me to start dancing.  I was scared of what people would think.  Living in Virginia I wasn’t sure how people would take a male dancer.  Yet, I did it and I finally found a hobby that gave me strength, courage and pride. I owe that to watching Britney Spears videos.

With all this said, I simply wanted to say that I adore Britney and consider myself a super fan.  While many people are trashing her new single, Work Bitch, I have to say one thing to them and that is to turn the song or music video off if you don’t like it.  We all have our reasons for continuing to support her career.  She may not be the Britney we once knew, but are you still the person you were in 1999 when she blew onto the scene?

I’m not. I’m not longer a gay boy in middle school hiding the fact that I am gay. I am no longer a high school student trying to figure out the life of a gay man. I am now a 27-year-old man living with my partner in Los Angeles loving my fabulously gay life.

We all change and I am the type of person who embraces change. Britney is a true artist and she is working it.